Relationship coach and host of the breakup BOOST podcast, Trina Leckie, tells Elite Daily it is "absolutely" OK for you to ask an ex to stop reaching out. Not only do you have the right to "ask. 5 Reasons You Should Not Text Your Ex: 1. You have a voice. It's their perception of you and how they read your text. It's how your ex hears your texts in their head. Get your ex back with Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit! In person, you have more control over that perception. You can be more playful, lighthearted, fun, and confident with.